August 07, 2010

Soapbox Saturday - men and women

I have a great friend who has a daughter Rex's age.  They get to play together quite often.  I am always amazed at the natural differences between them as a girl and a boy.  She loves to dress like a princess.  She'll stop eating mid-lunch to stand on her chair and sing us the song from Cinderella.  Rex is all boy.  He wants to be a superhero.  His life revolves around the seeing the garbage truck. 


Well, while we all eventually grow up and change I think the differences remain.  My husband and I are quite different.  He likes to be efficient at the store.  I like to roam.  He likes silence, so I talk his ear off.  He likes to watch sports while I'd rather beat my head up against the wall.  He thinks he has to solve all my problems.  I just want him to listen and sympathize.  I'm an early-riser.  He's not.  I try to be organized around the house.  He has a random pile of clothing on his side of the bed in which only he knows what is clean and what isn't.  I squeeze the toothpaste from the top and he squeezes from the bottom.  He's athletic and I'm artistic. 

So what makes it work?  Well, I was thinking about it and I noticed there was a commonality.  Rex and his little friend have tea parties at her house.  When my husband knows I need some "us" time he asks me if I want some herbal tea.  We sip and talk and everything feels wonderful.  We forget out differences and just take time to communicate.  And, it turns out we have a lot more in common than not.


What are your differences?

22 comments:

  1. It is so amazing how early those differences show up! I grew up with only girls and didn't have a clue that my boys would naturally love anything with wheels, engines, noise, dirt...it is so fun as a mom seeing that boyhood assert itself!

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  2. I have a little girl who is 3 and my little boy is 15 months. Already they are so different! His first words were Car and Ball and he already is obsessed with cars and truck and throwing things! So different than my little princess who gets dressed up in a different princess dress every day and will sit and color for hours.
    And I too would rather beat my head on the wall than watch sports! I feel like I'm wasting time that I could be doing being creative or cleaning!

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  3. I have 3 boys and 1 girl. She is so different! Emotional as heck and she is only almost 5! I think we are alike in that my hubby likes it quiet, but I too talk his ear off. It has always been said that opposites attract, and we work! That's all that matters!

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  4. That is the cutest picture! I love it! I'm with you. They come pre-programed to be different. Although the boys ask quite often to have their nails painted like the girls. It makes me giggle. I love the differences because it makes life interesting.

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  5. OH, the differences between boys and girls....my oldest (3) is a girl, and my next (1.5) is a boy. THEY COULD NOT BE MORE! DIFFERENT!

    Now, with my husband and I...yeah, the whole problem solving vs listening thing is pretty big. Oh, and he has AMAZING taste in clothes...and I'd dress like a bag lady every day if I could. So he picks out all my clothes for me in the stores and makes me try them on. LOL

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  6. i had to laugh when i read your comment about the garbage truck! :) some weeks we count down the number of sleeps until the garbage truck comes and when garbage day is here...watch out! my son will wait by the window all day just to catch a glimpse...lucky us it goes by about 5 times...
    -heather

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  7. I am LOVING the photos. so cute! (plus I am from Cape Cod.. and I miss it so much!)

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  8. Ha! My husband has a pile on his side of the bed, too! I'm glad to hear he isn't the only one.
    Isn't it funny how different we can be? Some days I look at my husband and thing, What on earth is going through your head??? But I really believe that if he was any more like me, we just wouldn't be able to stand each other!

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  9. I love this! I have a friend with a little girl (I have a boy) who is 2 months older than mine. They aren't even two yet and the differences are so obvious. At the park she never goes too far from her mom, she is shy of strangers, she isn't very loud, and she is willing to just sit and relax often. My boy runs around with no consideration of how far he might get from his parents, he will go up to anyone and everyone, he yells and screams and talks all of the time, and will rarely sit still. She carries a purse and he plays "Super Baby" or "Airplane". She likes dolls and he likes trucks. It really is amazing the difference at such a young age!

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  10. The difference between you and your husband sounds just like me and mine! Except I'm the messy one and he's the clean one. It's great how we can still come together though and love and enjoy each other!

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  11. My husband was explaining to my oldest son 5, that girls don't make any sense. My daughter is 7. She got pretty mad, but I said I don't understand boys and my hubby says, what's to understand?

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  12. You summed it up SO NICELY!! And your pictures are priceless!

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  13. Such cute pictures! I, for one, am SO grateful to have married someone so different from myself... I couldn't stand living with someone just like me! Your list of differences made me laugh, because apparently I'm like your husband and you're like my husband in those areas. :)

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  14. So great to see a couple like my husband and i. (that pile of clothes drives me CRAZY!) I have a boy and girl 3 years old and look forward to seeing different she will be growing up compared to the little mr. I love my boy for his boy-ness, but am really looking forward to incorporate some girliness into this house.
    LOVE your blog. You're awesome!

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  15. love these photos so much. They remind me of my 4 year old daughter and her best buddy. The older they get the more evident the differences in gender seem to be. But, just as you and your husband and me and mine, they still seem to have a lot in common. :)

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  16. Love your insight on that! So true! It's also nice to know my husband isn't the only one who leaves piles of clothes.
    Love the pictures!

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  17. I totally agree. We had our 2nd child almost a year ago and it was crazy to see how different he is from his sister. My little man loves waiting for the recyclables truck (they have the arm that loads the trash!) He plays with the toys we got our princess as a baby but she never played with them. We bought him a baby doll because my husband didn't want him to be "forced" into be a boy, but Little Man wants nothing to do with it. He loves his ball and trucks. I have been thinking a lot lately about how different my husband and I are. And yet we strangely work. I will probably never fully understand why, but why mess with something that works, right?

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  18. Love this post :)
    My hubby and I (we will have been together for 8 years in Oct and married for 4 in Sept.) well we have a lot in common. I also think we've adapted pretty well to each other in the time we've been together. We are both artists but in different ways, I'm crafty and I can only draw what I can see. He can just sit down and draw the human form. He draws a lot of comics.

    Our main differences I would say are: I am extremely organized, he is a bit of organized chaos. I am NOT NOT NOT a morning person, he is. I am more of a loner, he has more friends. I talk A LOT, he doesn't :)

    I do think some of those differences are just genes LOL. Women like to talk, and are more nurturing. Men are more problem solving and get it done.

    I would say our differences compliment each other usually :)

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  19. your photos are GREAT!! The kids are way cute!!

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  20. I love that last photo of the girl kissing the boy! that's absolutely refreshing to see! How adorable! :)

    enjoy our Sunday :)

    www.justcherishtoday.com

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  21. So true! And I love that one doesn't get harmony by playing the same note. Our differences add spice to married life!
    Stumbled upon you via a link to make your pillows. I don't make pillows. Or really want to. But I DID want to know who made the stinking cute "me" and "you" pillows! It's you! And your blog is delightful :)

    Blessings!
    Joy {www.simply-bloom.blogspot.com}

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  22. You really have a way with words. That was so fun to read...and so true!

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