I have a great friend who has a daughter Rex's age. They get to play together quite often. I am always amazed at the natural differences between them as a girl and a boy. She loves to dress like a princess. She'll stop eating mid-lunch to stand on her chair and sing us the song from Cinderella. Rex is all boy. He wants to be a superhero. His life revolves around the seeing the garbage truck.
Well, while we all eventually grow up and change I think the differences remain. My husband and I are quite different. He likes to be efficient at the store. I like to roam. He likes silence, so I talk his ear off. He likes to watch sports while I'd rather beat my head up against the wall. He thinks he has to solve all my problems. I just want him to listen and sympathize. I'm an early-riser. He's not. I try to be organized around the house. He has a random pile of clothing on his side of the bed in which only he knows what is clean and what isn't. I squeeze the toothpaste from the top and he squeezes from the bottom. He's athletic and I'm artistic.
So what makes it work? Well, I was thinking about it and I noticed there was a commonality. Rex and his little friend have tea parties at her house. When my husband knows I need some "us" time he asks me if I want some herbal tea. We sip and talk and everything feels wonderful. We forget out differences and just take time to communicate. And, it turns out we have a lot more in common than not.
What are your differences?