January 29, 2011

Soapbox Saturdays - Mothers

I know it's not Mother's day, but I really wanted to write about motherhood today.  I don't mean to exclude anyone here (those who aren't mothers), but I think many of you readers are mothers and I wanted to tell you how important you are today.  Why?  Because it is SO easy to forget.

You try to clean the house and you get this trailing behind you.  (Yes, he's licking the glass.  Everywhere.)


You try to look nice and they smear their peanut butter fingers all over you.

You try to take a cute picture and all you get is this.


You try to sit down at your computer and you can barely see the screen through all the fingerprints.

You try to make plans and they get sick and their noses suddenly become Niagra Falls.  (I didn't want to post a picture that was too nasty.  Here's a mini-runny nose :)


You try to tell them how much you love them and they say, "I have to go poop!" in return, sprinting to the bathroom.

You try to make a phone call and you can't even hear the person on the other line through the screaming that started exactly when the person you were calling picked up the phone.


You try to snuggle in close and they mention your breath smells.

You try to make a to do list and it becomes their coloring book.

You try to cook a great meal and they only want to play with it.

Well, it's all worth it....because you also get these sweet smiles and giggles and this intense feeling that you would give up anything for them.  It's this fierce, deep, unexplainable love that supersedes everything.


I wanted to share a few quotes that help me when I am focusing too much on the list above.

"Women rock a sobbing child without wondering if today's world is passing them by, because they know they hold tomorrow tightly in their arms.  When the real history of mankind is fully disclosed, will it feature the echoes of gunfire - or the shaping sounds of lullabies?  Will what happened in cradles and kitchens prove to be more controlling than what happened in Congresses?"  - Neal A. Maxwell

One of my kind readers shared this one with me the other day.  Thanks Jenny!

"I don't want to drive up to the pearly gates in a shiny sports car, wearing beautiful tailored clothes, my hair expertly coiffed, and with long, perfectly manicured fingernails. I want to drive up in a station wagon that has mud on the wheels from taking kids to scout camp. I want to be there with grass stains on my shoes from mowing Sister Schenk's lawn. I want to be there with a smudge of peanut butter on my shirt from making sandwiches for a sick neighbor's children. I want to be there with a little dirt under my nails from helping weed someone's garden. I want to be there with children's sticky kisses on my cheek and the tears of a friend on my shoulder. I want the Lord to know I was really here and that I really lived." -Marjorie Pay Hinckley

Lastly, here's a little quote from Lincoln.  I love it.

I remember my mother's prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life. - Abraham Lincoln


So, if you're having a tough week and you want to scream and cry and give up, I hope this helps a little.  You are needed and no one can take your place.  You are doing something more important than anything else.  You are a mother.

Thanks for reading.  Have a wonderful weekend.

75 comments:

Admitted Fabricaholic said...

this list just cracked me up! I can TOTALLY relate! Lol. Thanks for the Saturday morning cheer :)

Agi said...

Oh boy I can totally relate! I read somewhere, that cleaning the house while you have children living at home, is like trying to shovel the sidewalk while it snows.
Hugs to you, and have a great weekend :)

Jaime @ Our Journey said...

This came at the perfect time as I was really feeling overwhelmed today (it's 2pm here in Germany)! The quotes put it over the top and I started crying in my Coke Zero. :o) Thanks for putting it back perspective.

Jaime

UtahMillers said...

It's like you jumped into my head and knew exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you for posting this. You just put things back into perspective for me. Have a wonderful day!

Randi said...

I love that quote by Maxwell. Thanks for the reminder of how important our job is ... there is nothing else that should come before it.

How I Roll said...

I'm not a mother (yet!) but from your post, it sounds like I'm getting pretty good practice having a husband and two dogs. :)

Brianna! said...

What a sweet sweet post.
Im not a mother, but I do see and am Thankful for all that mom does.
Im so so soooo thankful for her.

xoxo
bB

Andria said...

That just made my Saturday, thank you!

lindsay said...

My 11.5 month old just cut his 12th tooth. I haven't slept most of the night - nor have I been this exhausted since I brought him home from the hospital. So I had a nice little morning cry in my special k cereal - this is exactly what I needed this morning.

Emily S. said...

Those are my top two favorite motherhood quotes. I think of Elder Maxwell's quote most nights while putting my little boy in bed. Thanks for sharing them!

theolivetree said...

Thanks for sharing, just what moms need to hear :)

Keira said...

Like most here it seems you posted this at the perfect time, it's been a particularly difficult week in the house this week and I found myself wondering why I bother to try doing anything (cleaning, working out, putting clothes on instead of staying in pj's lol) Thank you for this :)

lorchick @ ON{thelaundry}LINE said...

what an awesome post. This week has been a little up and a little down and back and forth again. A typical mom week, in other words! ;)

Anonymous said...

thank you so much for your post today. i really needed that. i have been having a really trying few days. being a mom can be so tough with few even recognizing your efforts. this is a great reminder that we are helping to build and shape the future. :0)

Amy said...

That was perfect! I needed that after the couple of weeks I've been through....Thank you!

Laura at Ms. Smartie Pants said...

Sometimes all that happens in just one day, right??? Oh what I could add to the list as a mother of a 16 yr old girl. Thank God my armor is tough and I know I am not as stupid as she thinks I am! Love, love, love the Lincoln quote! Your a great mom Cheri, it is so obvious! Enjoy it all!!!! :)

Jessica said...

Your boys are soooooo cute. I'm just sayin.

Jennifer Moore said...

You have NO idea how much I needed this today. THANK YOU. I have been stuck in the house with 2 little boys with a stomach virus for the last 5 days, and after doing non-stop laundry and clean-up duty, I was beginning to feel down. This reminded me just how important my job is. Thank you.

inday_adin said...

This is just beautiful and very inspirational. All those things you've mentioned above are things I have experienced as a mother of 2-year old. Things could get frustrating at times, but when this little boy starts smiling, giving me a big hug and a kiss, there all went my frustrations away and everything seems to be fine. That's a mother's life! :) Have a great weekend!

Adin B

Jillian said...

I just love this, both of my boys got sick just days before I started back to school for the semester and are still Niagara falls. I especially loved the part about them having to poop, yep I get it and well I think mother's of little boys get it just a bit more :)

The Scrapbook Speedway said...

thank you for sharing that! very needed today for sure! thanks!

The Walker Family said...

Thank you I really needed this, I just gave birth to my newest baby yesterday and we have been having the hardest time getting him to eat I had like 2 hours of sleep last night and this will give me the strength to push through today!
Crystal

Kristen said...

This was just the thing I needed to read this morning! This past week has been crazy with extra cranky kids, lots of screaming and never enough sleep. It is nice to have the reminder of how important our job as mothers are. Thanks!!!
BTW, your boys are so stinkin' cute!

Nunurina said...

Gracias por ser tan positiva. Y hacer entende a algunas mamas, que como yo son un poco negativas. Consuela ver y entender que no estamos solas y que todas las mamas pasamos por estos momentos.
Besos y Feliz Fin de Semana
Thank you for being so positive. And to do entende to some breasts, that as me they are a bit negative. It consoles to see and to understand that we are not alone and that we spend all the breasts for these moments.
Kisses and Happy Weekend

KBoo said...

Thanks for the quotes. Neal A. Maxwell's was especially good. :)

Anonymous said...

Thank you. It has been a rough week. Thank you.

Melissa Ash said...

Thanks! I, too, needed this today! I love the posts by Elder Maxwell and Sister Hinckley! I think I am going to write them up and hang them on the walls in my kids rooms, so that when I am putting them to sleep, I can remember what is most important, and why I do what I do! Thank you!

Brooke Douglass said...

You hit it right on the nail!!! I love all the quotes and I can relate with all of your post!! Thank you so much for thinking about us mothers! hugs, brooke
brookedouglass@yahoo.com
Girl Boy Girl Inspired

Laura said...

Wow. You are inspired woman. I so needed these thoughts today too. Thanks for sharing not only these wonderful quotes, but a bit of insight into your sweet famil and your extraordinary homemaking/crafting expertise. Your blog is the little bit of sunshine I needed on this very gray, smoggy day!

Heather@The Black's Best said...

Thank you so much for the encouragement all of us mothers need. It's good to know that we all struggle with similar issues.

Kristi said...

Oh, I can't tell you how much I needed this today. It has been a rough 2 yrs and on our first getaway to see family since the baby was born. I was feeling down because we had pine wood derby races for the cousins but I have a sick big boy, and fussy teething baby boy. I was glad to be taking care of them, but at the same time having a small pity party because everyone else is gone and my boys and I are missing their cousins race :( I needed this to pick me up out of the dumps, and help me realize that what i'm doing is way more important. I love these quotes and think they will go on my wall!!!

Kristi
www.living-blessed-life@blogspot.com

Kristen said...

Thanks, I think God used you to help alot of us stressed out moms today. I've been sick for days and still trying to feed my son and keep my house somewhat in order and feeling slightly overwhelmed. So thanks a million!

mstalcup said...

THANK YOU THANK YOU...I Needed to hear this today! I SO RELATE! Had lunch plans/playdate planned for a week now and had to cancel this morning due to sick baby. :(

Great post! Thanks for sharing.

Christie @ A Lemon Squeezy Home said...

Wonderful post, Cheri! I too love that quote by Elder Maxwell--he was amazing. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

Jax said...

you are an inspired woman. My husband has been on business for a week, and it has been overwhelming to do it all. It helps me to appreciate him more and to realize that he is a wonderful husband and father. Thank you for sharing these uplifting quotes and reminding me that every mother has rough days but it is all worth it when you have a child in your arms. Thank you for talking about motherhood today. :)

HeySharky! creative designs said...

thank you! i was having one crappy week.. full of 'poor me.. i don't get to do this and that because of the boys.." i really needed this. looks like i'm not the only one. i sat here laughing and crying all the while my 2 1/2 yr old boy sat in my lap asking who is in the pictures on the screen.. laughing and pointing- worth every minute :) thank you again.

Jamie~ said...

This was wonderful! I have a carnival every Monday over at my blog in an effort to help me remember the preciousness of these days and to not get overwhelmed by the enormity of it all.

Thanks for including the quote by Lincoln. It's one of my all time favorites!

Jenny said...

What a wonderful, wonderful post. Thanks for helping to put life into the right perspective...and thank you for always thanking us for reading at the end of every post. I always notice that and it makes me smile.

Brittany Lynn said...

I absolutely loved this post! Sounds like my day yesterday. And can I just say, the picture of your boy with his face smashed against the glass, licking it, may have made my entire day. I laughed so hard that *I* needed to sprint to the bathroom. My son will be two in just under two weeks and he has become rather fond of that horrible fake cry just to get my attention when something doesn't go his way. BUT, he also is a big snuggler and I love that. Motherhood makes me want to slam my head against the wall repeatedly sometimes but it is also so wonderful. I am sharing this post with everyone I know!! Thanks!

A. Kerr said...

Thank you so much! I needed this after this week.

Sweeter Hours said...

Beautifully said. Thanks for sharing.

Caroline said...

Thank you! My #7 was born last week and this was one of THOSE weeks. Thanks for helping me keep perspective...I'll just go print those quotes now :)

Tari said...

Thanks Cheri! I've been trying to remind myself that being a mom is the most important thing I can be doing right now, even if all the things I do seem to go unnoticed! So thanks again, and I hope this wasn't inspired by you having a tough week! (If so, I hope it gets better!)

The One and Only said...

totally loved it!! I could never imagine what motherhood was like until I actually became a mother. My son will drive me crazy one minute but doo something hysterically funny the next. I never truly know what love was until I had a child..thanks for the fab post!

Amy said...

Oh wow, I definitely needed this! My whole life I wanted nothing more than to be a mom and I truly love being a mom. I have the best "job" in the world. There is not a day that passes that I feel frustrated at least a couple times and wonder if I'm even doing a good job. This helped me remember that it's so important and SO worth it!

Kourtney said...

Thanks for the laugh.. I can totally relate to all of you little experiences. I love being a mom and wouldn't trade any day (great or awful) for the world!!!

Kylie said...

Thanks for this moving piece Cheri. Once again you have helped inspire me! I really love following your daily life! Much love to your family and you...
Your Aussie (sweltering!) friend,
Kylie xoxo

Hands Sew Full said...

Thank you for reminding all of us how much we are needed in the lives of those little ones! I will add those quotes to my collection. I need all the help I can get some days! I'd like to share with you two others that get me through each day. The first I received on my first Mother's day and have had to fall back on over and over.....
Cleaning and scrubbing can wait 'til tomorrow,
for babies grow up, we learn to our sorrow.
So quiet down cob webs, dust go to sleep,
I'm rocking my babies and babies don't keep. Anonymous.
The other is a fridge magnet which my kids read all the time:
"In raising my children, I have lost my mind but found my soul"
Lisa T. Shepherd.

The Durhams said...

BWAAAHHHH!!! I totally needed to read this post!!! The past two weeks have been a whirlwind of emotions for me. Thank you so much!!! A good reminder that motherhood is an incredible calling.
Jamie

toria said...

loved this. thank you for sharing!

dubb and dawni said...

So cute loved the post it made me giggle out loud !

Tulip and Turnip said...

You just described my day perfectly! Thanks for the reminder that I'm not in it alone. :)

Lindy said...

Thank you...this was exactly what I needed after a full day of running after and disciplining twin two year old boys. You reminded me that I am so blessed to be a mommy.

Anne said...

You don't have any idea how much I needed this today. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Anne said...

You don't have any idea how much I needed this today. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Melinda@This Mama's Heart said...

I can definitely relate. Thank you for such a wonderful post!

Jodi said...

Thanks for the inspiration.

em-il-ie said...

The licking picture?! Priceless.

My fave quopte is this one by Gordon B Hinckley...

http://www.etsy.com/listing/64838722/gordon-b-hinckley-lds-inspirational

Kinsey said...

I have two little boys and another one on the way. I don't know if it's the hormones or what, but I sometimes feel like I'm drowning over here in my small Texas town. So I really appreciate your post. Not all of my days are low and sad but some definitely are, so it was nice hearing a word of encouragement. Thank you!

Erin said...

I so feel ya! I have been having one of those weeks! I have a 3 and 1 year old (boys) and they have been driving each other and me crazy all week! I can't wait for SPRING! I think we all need some fresh air and sunshine.

Lisa [at] Vanilla and Coconut said...

Mother's of boys seem to have it a tad bit worse :P
I can relate to this in so many ways, & I only have 1.

Mom said...

I loved reading your blog! I have only recently started writing a blog about the antics of my 12 kids and it's hard when my 2-year-old is crawling across the back of my chair and I'm trying to nurse the baby, talk to my married daughter on the phone, comfort the 14-year-old's latest boy trauma, help the little ones with homework, and supervise the 12-year-old making dinner all at the same time! Please visit my blog at twelvemakesadozen.blogspot.com.
Thanks!

Charlotte said...

Thank you, I needed that!! :*)

Siobhan said...

I laughed, then I cried (not hysteria but a little welling up job). Thanks Cheri, you are beautiful!

Trina Curran said...

Did you know how bad I needed this or something? Dishes, laundry, mom, help!, who cares but me? kind of day. Man. thanks. What an awesome thing to read and to hear. I really did need that.

mama walker said...

you are in such an abundance of company. i LOVE the poem you included at the end. I try to measure my day by simply asking " did i love well?" sometimes it was loving well that i put everyone to bed early so we could all stay friends.but it beats opening my mouth to ugly words. thats what works for me friend.

I'm Erica! said...

this made me cry...i'm feeling a little bit hormonal LOL! but i loved this!! thank you for the encouragement!!! ♥erica

Michelle said...

This is so perfect for me right now. I have recently given up a lot of things that were filling up my time to concentrate more on my boys. They were good things and really hard to give up, but I can't believe the ways I am being reassured by the Lord that I am doing the right thing. I love the Maxwell quote. I think I will print out the first line and put it on the fridge. It can go right next to this one..."Anyone who would say apologetically,'I am only a homemaker,' has not fully appreciated the importance and intricacy of her profession."-Sister Kimball (pres. kimball's wife)
Thanks for your awesomeness and for making my day bright and confidence as a SAHM big. :)

Kylie Ann said...

After everything that has happened lately and all my frustration it was nice to open my computer and get the first real laugh I've had in days. Thank you!

Michãel said...

Love this! Thanks for the humor.

Angela said...

Putting my little girl to bed last night I said "I love you!" and she said "I love Daddy." Mothers aren't appreciated as much as we would like :) but, it's all worth it in the end!

Marissa said...

This made me giggle. I can totally relate! Thanks for posting. :)

THE Mariam said...

I totally adore the photos of your sons. They crack me up and make me miss my best friend her son. Keep the posts coming!

Melissa said...

Love the Marjorie Hinckey quote! Do you know where it came from?

Jess said...

I can totally relate to this! I just found your blog today and already love it!

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