August 18, 2012

Sharing Saturday

It's time for a Sharing Saturday!  I loved reading your comments and suggestions last week.  This week we have a reader question and a couple from me.  Here we go:

1) We have a reader who is looking for potty training tips.  I think we talked about that once here a long time ago, but it's always great to have more suggestions and ideas.  Tell us what you know!


2) Are you good at exercising?  If you answered yes, would you say that it's because you love it or just because you're disciplined?  How do you make it work in your life/schedule.  Honestly, I feel like exercise is always the ball that gets dropped for me.  I'm debating purchasing an elliptical, but I want to make sure I can be committed before spending the money.  What your exercise of choice?

3) Do any of you have any personal experience with in vitro?  That's kind of a big question, I know.  Maybe I'll explain all that another time, but if you've done in vitro I'd love to hear your experiences.  If it's too personal to post here you can always email me.

Thanks ahead of time for your responses.  I love being able to tap into so much knowledge.  You guys rock.  Thanks for dropping in.

54 comments:

  1. I'm not "good" at exercising, but I've been doing pretty well recently. I have a gazelle that I bought off of Craigslist for $25. What I do is wake up an hour before my kids to work out. I get bored exercising, so lately, I've been watching tv episodes that I have on dvd on my laptop, while I exercise. The other thing I've done is I downloaded the couch to 5k app on my phone to keep me focused and motivated. This tells me when to run/jog and when to briskly walk. The time has been flying and I'm getting a better workout doing these new things. Hope it helps!

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    1. What's the name of that app???

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    2. Couch to 5K. Really easy to use :)

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  2. I'm going to email you my in vitro story because it's LONG.

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  3. I CANNOT wait to see what potty training tips readers have. My second son pretty much refuses to use the potty and he is almost 3 1/2 (that was embarrassing to admit.)

    My key to exercising is to not get bored. I go to Zumba once a week (I'd go more if my schedule allowed.) It is fun and it feels like it goes by fast. It is especially great if you go with a friend. That helps keep me accountable. I also try to do something every night once I put the kids to bed. I've pinned a bunch of shorter workouts that I pick from. I never do the same thing twice in a row. I'll use my 3 lb weights sometimes or I'll do some yoga (which I've discovered I love.) Some of my workouts I can do while catching up on some of my shows, which helps me combat the boredom.

    My bro-in-law and his wife tried to do in vitro last year but it did not work. It was a very difficult and hard process on her body. She seemed to get all the bad side effects too. Poor girl even lost her vision for a day and a half (I think this is pretty rare.)

    On a side note, a friend of mine was having trouble getting pregnant after having two boys. After a miscarriage and years of trying to get pregnant again, she went to an acupuncturist. After a few sessions she got pregnant with her little girl. Don't know if this would be another option besides in vitro...

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    1. Stefanie, my son (3yo) is the same way about the potty-- you are not alone!

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    2. My friend struggled to get pregnant with each of her boys. But after she went to her acupuncturist she was pregnant the next month each time.

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    3. I have a guy that's three years, eight months, and incredibly resistant to potty training. It's rough. I'm so excited to try some tips here!

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    4. I also have a friend who couldn't get pregnant...enter acupuncturist and she was pregnant within a month

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    5. Ok, it's a relief that I am not the only one with a three an a half year old STILL not fully potty trained!

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  4. My 4 kids are all grown up and out of the house. But one thing I do remember what I learned about toilet training is that if they are not ready (ie can't hold the urine in) all the tricks won't work--started my first at 18 mos, he trained at 2.5 years! my 2nd started at 2 years and he trained at 2.5 years. My 3rd said just before 2 years "I go pee?" without any training at all! The girl was easy (the rest were boys, who mature later! )

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  5. 1. Just potty trained my 2.5 year old using this post and it worked! http://www.themoesfamilyintexas.blogspot.com/2012/01/potty-training-part-2.html

    2. Ever since I had my 2nd baby girl (10 months ago) I've been exercising to lose the baby weight. So far i've lost 40 lbs! I don't like working out so the secret for me has been short workouts. I really love "Personal Training with Jackie Warner" and that's a great starter workout as each workout is only 15 minutes. I built consistency first and then started working out a little longer once the habit is there. I also like "Jillian Michael's 30 day shred" as it's only 30 minutes long.

    I also track my calories using livestrong's myplate. You put in your weight and how much you want to lose and then it tells you how many calories you can eat a day. That way you slowly work down too. I've always had trouble losing weight but this has been so incredibly helpful for me so I had to share!

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    1. I also used livestrong's myplate....it really helped me lose pounds...it was always eye-opening to see how many calories I was actually consuming, when I didn't think I had been eating that much.

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  6. Exercise--I'm exercising more regularly now than I ever have in my life, and it's because I'm training for my first triathlon! Having a goal makes it much easier for me to keep committed, because I HATE to exercise. I don't think I'll ever be one of those people who just really loves it or feels like going for a run to 'clear my head'. I'd rather sit on the couch. ;) But truly, this is making a difference for me and even when my race is over, I can keep training to get faster (because right now my goal is just to survive it! LOL).

    We bought a membership to our local rec center because it includes child care--couldn't do it if I had to exercise at home because the kids won't leave me alone and I don't want to get up at the crack of dawn to beat them or stay up late to do it after they go to bed.

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    1. Heidi, good luck with your triathlon! I just finished my first one yesterday, and it actually turned out to be so fun! I agree with you about having a goal...like a race or something you've signed up for. It keeps you accountable and more committed.

      I've also tried a calorie counter app, and it worked wonders for me! Like others have mentioned, I didn't realize how many calories I had been consuming. It really makes you think twice before putting something in your mouth and whether it's worth the calories. I had never been able to lose weight before (except baby weight), but I lost eight pounds and just started eating so much healthier and cleaner!

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  7. My 2nd child was literally scared of the toilet and potty chair. We had to bribe him with candy just to have him sit on it with clothes on. Once we were able to move past that it was a bit easier. Tip #1 Talk it up. Decide when your ready and talk it up until then. Talk about it every day for a month or more. Tip #2 Bribing and potty charts. I let him choose his incentives to go potty. Going poop (which he had a hard time doing0 immediately got a prize. Going pee we had a chart and I would make him wait a little longer in between each prize. 1st time got a prize then he had to go twice, then 3 times, then a little more each time. A prize a day for a while, then every other day. There was a big prize when he filled up both sides of his paper with stickers. The biggest problem I had was actually that first day. He refused to go. I went to pull his pants down for him and he held on tightly to them. I had to reason with him, show all the prizes he picked out and tell him I would take them back and he didn't get any of them if he didn't go. By 3 1/2 years old he was a bit easier to reason with. Tip #3 Have lots of juice and other liquids on hand. Give them plenty of juice to drink. Let them pick out what they will drink. The more liquids you give them the more they will have a chance to go pee during the day. Also this dilutes the urine so it isn't concentrated. Keep salty snacks around too. Let them eat salty snacks to make them more thirsty, then they'll want to drink more, and need to pee more. Any schedule of eating basically goes out the window for about 3 days. Your priority is potty training. Tip #4 Stay home. Be ready to just stay home and be near a toilet. You want them to practice going in the toilet. #5 Try and have them make it their choice. If your forcing them to do it, it is not going to work. #6 once you start stick to it. Don't let them go back in diapers, it will be harder next time around. Just make sure they are ready.

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    1. I agree 100%! It really works!

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  8. The secret to a great workout that is short AND affective: metabolic resistance training (MRT) and high intensity interval training (HIIT). These are only about 20-30 minute long workouts that pack a punch and have you burning calories all day long. I have lost 25 pounds in 3 months and recovered a TON of LEAN muscle. The biggest achievement is the 7 inches off my waist! I did not starve.myself, either. I was eating about 1700 calories a day of clean/whole foods. 30 day shred is an MRT workout. You can google and youtube a lot of fast, easy workouts as well. Also google why it works so well just for fun. The only equipment needed is handweights. NO LONG CARDIO NEEDED!!! I do still hop on the treadmill for a mile or two to because that's how I watch TV. ;)


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    1. I agree. HIIT is awesome! There's tons of HIIT workouts on Pinterest and on blogs. :) I love Jillian Michaels Making the Cut also. I love that there are so many options that don't have to include a gym membership.

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  9. The thing I have had to learn about potty training is not to be too wrapped up in it. Getting upset at accidents doesn't help a thing. My new mantra is "accidents happen". Of course, I started at the wrong time, I was 7 months pregnant and had sciatica pain so my patience was at an all time low. After 7 months my DD (I started potty training when she was almost 3) is finally starting to go poop in the potty instead of her pants and she now can recognize when she needs to go instead of me constantly asking. Thank goodness, she starts preschool next week!! I've found that setbacks are just going to happen, you just have to have patience (and chocolate for rewards!!).

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  10. Potty training with my second was so amazingly easy with my second thanks to the movie Potty Power. We had been discussing potty training and had bought him some big boy underpants. He watched the video twice (the movie is a bit annoying) and he decided he wanted to go in the potty. He was pretty much potty trained from day 1. He was 2.5 years old.

    Exercise I do it to stay thin not because I love it...with that said I really truly feel better when I am exercising

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  11. I'm 34 weeks pregnant with our first child--thanks to IVF. We had fertility issues for several reasons, the biggest of which is my husband's history of cancer. It was a big decision for us but everything else failed multiple times. My husband had a harder time with it than I did, but in the end we have a baby that has 23 of each of our chromosomes and I got to carry him. That was probably my biggest motivation to go thru IVF...to carry my own baby; to know what it feels like to be pregnant and feel him kick and move and even go thru the uncomfortableness of pregnancy. There are things about IVF that are painful, both physically and emotionally. However, I wouldn't go back and undo our decision for anything.
    There are hundreds of specific questions about IVF and I could probably write a novel about it to answer some of them. Just asking about our experience with IVF is a HUGE topic. We had great success with IVF, I know others have not. Ultimately, this is the path God laid out for us to welcome our son into the world--not the traditional way, but who said God had to do things the same way every time. He has used this experience to make me into a more compassionate person toward those who also have trouble conceiving and I think has been preparing my heart to minister to other women because of this challenge.

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  12. I am going to start potty training next weekend! I too have a 3 1/2 year old who could care less to sit in a poopy diaper. I've been reading different suggestions and am going to see what works for me.

    I love to exercise. Not everyday, but most of the time because I joined the YMCA (with free gym care). And I take the best classes that make me sweat and keep me interested. I used to do the same thing everyday and would get bored real quick but I do anything from boot camp to Zumba to trx to step to a weights class to kick boxing. It makes me excited about exercise! If I don't make it to the gym I usually either do Jillian michaels 30 day shred or a workout off of body rock.tv. They have amazing 12 minute workouts that kick my vutt!

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  13. Oh exercise, exercise, exercise...an older woman once told me to find the time first, i.e. do it at home and get in the habit before committing to a gym, equipment. So far it's worked for me. I've been walking 3-4 times a week for Summer and in the Winter, I will prolly join a contract-free gym until Spring comes around.

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  14. I am an exercise nut, but I have to keep switching it up to make it fun. I do have a treadmill in the garage that I will use if I haven't gotten any other cardio in for the day and can't get to the gym. I hate that thing, though, because I get so bored. I bribe myself by getting a good book and only allowing myself to read it out there. Or I use the ABC player app on my phone and watch Modern Family or something else mindless. I love doing Zumba classes (so flippin fun) because you get such a great cardio workout and barely notice the hour is going by.
    Another great (FREE!) way to get a great workout is by using YouTube videos! There are some amazing trainers out there who post their workouts online. My favorite is Blogilates, her stuff will absolutely make. you. sore.

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  15. Ah, potty training. I think the best thing is to remember that each child is different. I was told boys are difficult to train, but at 2 years old my son was a breeze to potty train, my daughter was another story. She needed different motivation, and what worked for one week didn't for another. Just stay positive and praise every success and don't really comment much on accidents. Just a little "uh oh" is usually enough.

    I'm fairly dedicated to exercising mostly because it makes me feel good afterward, but I am by no means what you would consider fit (Due to complications and lots of rest I gained 50 lbs with the last pregnancy and am trying to get that off). I make a goal to exercise x amount of days a week. Then I do not allow myself to get ready for the day until I've exercised. It may sound dumb, but it's what motivates me.

    I wish I knew something about in vitro. I have friends who have done it, but I don't have any personal experience. Best of luck!

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  16. It thought it might be helpful to check out the older comments from a Sharing Saturday 2 years ago about potty training. It's right here: http://www.iammommahearmeroar.net/2010/06/sharing-saturday-your-questions_26.html

    And thanks so much for all your comments, ladies!

    Cheri

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  17. I'm terrible with exercise, but now that I'm done having babies I have a LOT of extra weight hanging around that I'm trying to get rid of. I've started doing the P90X program, and I love it! Now, when I say I'm doing P90X, that means I pick one of the 12 workouts to do, about 2-3 times per week, and then I only do about 30 minutes of it including warm up/cool down. :-) BUT...It's something, and I think the workouts are so well developed that my meager 30 minutes really helps a ton! I've lost 5 pounds/week for the last 2 weeks!

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  18. I'm reading the comments on the potty training with great interest as we're starting next week! My daughter is 2years and 3 months but here in Belgium they go to kindergarden at 2.5 and they're supposed to be potty trained then.

    I won't comment on the excercise issue as I HATE excercising ;-)

    On the in vitro on the other hand, I can tell you everything. Did it 9 times before I got pregnant with our little girl. Those 4 yeats were really really hard (also because in that period of time ALL our friends got 1, 2 or even 3 kids) but the reward was worth EVERYTHING!!! I would easily do it all again, if I see my beautiful daughter! She's the icing on my cake.
    If you have specific questions, you can always email me: postvooredje@gmail.com

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  19. I don't love exercising but I am disciplined. I run, and the way I stick to it is that I sign up for races! Then you have to train! I have two little ones, so it can be hard to fit it in, but I either run in the evenings when my husband is home, or I go at 5am before anyone else is up!

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  20. exercise. i don't love it. but i've gotten into the habit of it....and now i go cause i love the results. once you see your butt tightening it's easier to go. You just need to have an awesome playlist and a set time. If it's scheduled in you just do it and don't think about it (cause you will talk yourself out of it ) i prefer going to the gym cause if i stay home i get halfway in between the workout and i have to go break up a fight or wipe a bum or nose or something. and the daycare is an hour so i have to stay the entire time--cause i'm cheap and i want to get my money's worth!

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  21. My oldest, a girl, didn't potty train until almost 3 1/2. We basically had to force her to do it...she is very strong willed and just didn't want to. We forced her not with the potty, but with lying to us about not going. We made it clear that we wanted her to try and wouldn't get upset about accidents, but she couldn't lie to us about "not having to go". With consistency, this worked in a week -- totally trained day and night!

    Exercise -- I got to Curves 2-3 times per week. It helps me to "go someplace" and the strength training has proved to make all the difference for me (before I would walk/bike and it didn't seem to help any). It has been a family commitment for us since the nearest Curves is 15 miles away and there is no child care -- but my husband is also committed to me being able to get there, so that is great!

    IVF -- no personal experience but I'm always cautious about messing with my body through chemicals (and artificial hormones and hormone manipulation). I've done lots of reading about "fixing" fertility problems with lifestyle and diet changes. Check out www.naturallyknockedup.com (and her new book) for lots of great healthy advice.

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  22. I think a lot of moms potty train when they think that their child SHOULD be ready. I tried it then, and it was slow and miserable. I think a lot of the motivation is social expectation. No mom wants to have a 4 year old that still wears diapers. It's like we think we've failed if our kids aren't trained by the time they turn two.

    I changed my method and waited until my son told me that he WANTED to go. He was older than I had wanted him to be, but he potty trained in a few days. From now on I'll face the embarrassment and the cost of diapers and just let my kids tell me when they're ready.

    I also agree with earlier comments also that potty training resistance and accidents shouldn't be treated as bad behavior. It makes things worse.

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  23. I think running is the most effective thing to do. I burn more calories during one hour of running than I do with one hour on the elliptical. I've read that elliptical burns more calories than the treadmill, but I think that's pure crap!

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  24. My husband & I are 60 days into the Tapout XT program (thanks to his seeing an infomercial on a sleepless night) It's helped both of us to really tone up, lose weight & feel better. Going to a gym doesn't appeal to either of us. We are lucky to be able to work out together & motivate each other. We gave our elliptical to a relative since it took up so much space & we both preferred our treadmill instead. My favorite though will always be a fast-paced walk outside.

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  25. Hi Cheri-I have no tips on potty training or in vitro as I have not had any children yet. I do however have a throwback question for you. Could you please tell me the length, width, and height of your beautiful shelf in your living room? I have a friend helping me build a similar shelf and I'd love to have a starting point with size. You can e-mail me at: cmiller@fils.org. Thanks so much! Thanks also for sharing your life, faith, and crafts on your blog. I never miss a day! -Casey

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  26. I have 6 children and I have one on the way. I have potty trained all of my children, except my newly turned 2 year old boy using the book Toilet Training in less than a day. I was skeptical at first but I checked the book out from the library at the suggestion of my aunt(a mother of 5) and thought it couldn't hurt to give it a try. I read it through and followed almost all of the instructions. (I did not allow my child to carry the potty from the potty chair to the toilet by themselves and I did put my children in pullups for nap and bedtime) It has worked for all of my kids. It is a lot in one day and for a couple of my children I put them to bed the first night and thought, "well maybe they weren't ready" But low and behold they all did it. We did have the typical few accidents within the first couple weeks but I would recommend the book to anyone. It worked for me and my aunts, it is worth a try. One day is so much easier than struggling for weeks and months on end.

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  27. Hi Cheri,
    I did invitro and now have 6 year old twin girls AND 3 year old twin boys. I would be happy to answer any questions you have. The best thing for me was trying to "NOT STRESS"! Which is of course super hard to do when you want something so badly. It took us three years to get pregnant the first time because I was such a stress ball. Of course I prayed all along but finally added Meditation and Acupucture for the first time and that is what did it for me. The second time, with the boys, I was much more relaxed and got pregnant on the first invitro cycle. Please feel free to e-mail me if you have questions. twins-squared (at) hotmail (dot) com

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  28. I LOVE exercising! Crossfit is my workout of choice. Quick, intense workouts that work! I went from a size 10/12 to a size 4 in about 6 months. Over the past year and (almost) a half I've gone from almost 40% bodyfat to 17% (measured by water dunk-pretty darn accurate!) Of course I eat really well (no processed food, no dairy, no sugar, no grains...Paleo is what it's called). It's changed my life. I feel amazing and that is what gets me going each morning. Since I'm a SAHM, I feel like it is my job to be in shape and take care of myself. For so many years I lived for them. Then I realized if I don't take care of myself, a) where will I find the energy to keep up with them and b) I'm not being the best role model. So my job is to take care of myself so that I can take better (and more fun!) care of them!

    As for potty training, that book you posted, Potty Train, worked for my 2nd kiddo. My first was motivated by skittles, he was PT by 2 years old. Lucked out on that kid. The 2nd one, not so much. He didn't even show interest til 2 and it wasn't until my husband's coworker gave him that book that we made progress. I drew a train on a piece of paper, divided it into 10 boxes, and each day he was "dry-dry-dry" he got a sticker. After 10 stickers, he got a train ride to Legoland. Totally worked. We struggle with night time training though. He does great for a while and then not so much. I don't know what to do for that.

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  29. Exercise? It is so different for everyone. I've read comments about how people need to mix it up by trying new things. The opposite is true for me. I need consistency. I decided to walk M-F every morning at the same time. At first I didn't go very far or long so as not to discourage myself. Slowly I added time and distance and eventually added some running in the middle. I also had a short weightlifting routine with the same music every day after the walk for about 10 mintues. After 3 months I lost 30 pounds and they kept melting off. As soon as I stopped making myself go everyday, I stopped going altogether and now (2 babies later and one on the way) I desperately need to start again. I am going to use the same system I used before. My advice is to try many methods and ways and find what works for you. The thought of going to the gym to exerices is worse than the thought of excercising at all for me!!!

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  30. most of the people on here seem to be potty training at about the average time, 2 1/2 - 3yrs old so i thought i'd just give my experience on the younger side just if anyone is interested.
    i started when my son was 15months with just having the potty in the lounge room and my son would sit ong it, kind of just to play then when he was 18months i pretty much left him pantless when we were home. sounds bad i know but a few wee accidents on hard wood floor weren't to big of a deal i must admit i think he pooped on the floor twice. i just keep him in my sights the rest of the time (small house) we'd leave the house with a couple of changes of clothes and it took about 2 months for him to be really good with going potty. my thinking was that at this age he was eager to please and was learning so thing so quickly that potty would be simple for him to get. he is just about 3 now and is definitely hard to get to do anything.. please tell me 3 is easier..lol
    so with the arrival of baby number two i decided to try potty at 4 months and it was luck at the start, but now at 7 months my daught is weeing and pooing on the potty we take her after each nap and if she is gasy. she will sit on the potty for 3 mins in the morning and poop. don't get me wrong she still wees in her diaper and will miss about a poo a week. i think it can be called elimination communication.

    exercise: for the first 6 months after having bubba number 2 i couldn't find a moment for myself, then one day motivated by my reflection i made the change i get to the gym for cardio around hubby's schedule and the kids bed time. it's exhilarating only because it's me time i watch the tv and think about all this stuff i want to do..
    during labor with number two i remember thinking if i can get through this this I CAN RUN A MARATHON! i don't know about that, but 10k would be a fantastic goal

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  31. I am the worst at potty training. THE worst. My oldest was 4.5 before he was trained because of some medical issues & early trauma (He is adopted). We actually had to consult an Occupational Therapist and a psychologist about it. Everyone says the same thing, just wait until they are ready. And they were right...even though it took 2.5 years of "training" he is out of diapers just in time for kindergarten!

    We joined the YMCA this year as a family and it has been a great motivator for me. It is only 1/4 the cost of the other gyms in our area and my kids really enjoy going. (And I love that they have a great childcare staff to watch them while I get mommy time)They ask me every day if we can go, so they can spend an hour with their friends and I do Zumba or yoga or take my Kindle and read while I ride the bike for a while. We also took advantage of their swim lessons and my daughter will be doing her dance class there in the fall.

    I'm sorry, I have no advice about invitro, but I am a walking encyclopedia about the adoption option if anyone needs to chat with someone who has gone through that process.



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  32. On potty training : I actually just used the toilet for both boys, with steps and the toilet insert they sat on. This way they were copying what they had seen me do. I had a huge amounr of false starts with my eldest as I had a lot of pressure to toilte train him. In the end I told everyone to back off, and and I mentioned it a lot, told him he would earn a toy of his choosing once he decided to use the toilet. He really wanted a skateboard, so we got one and sat it hooked up above the toilet. Our toilet was in the bathroom, and he would always follow us in there, and saw it alot. We watched a DVD called Tom's toilet time, which was made for disabled children, and it was great as it described what it feels like when you need to wee and poo, it is a cartoon, with an older sister explaining to her brother Tom what it feels like (there is a singing frog too). I had so many DVDs on "potty time", but as soon as he would realise the theme of the DVD he would refuse to watch them, but he loved Tom's toilet DVD. So close to Easter break (so I had 4 days off, I am the working parent) we ramped up the talk and DVD watching, and then he asked to give it a try (he was 3). Every hour I asked if he needed to go, we had 2 wee accident the first day, 1 the second day, and that was it. We still used night nappies, until 4 days later he asked not to have them. We paniced slightly as we had not bought the plastic undersheets for his bed, but in the interests of being positive and supportive - agreed to give it a go, stuck a towel under his sheet as a temporay measure, and he never had an accident in bed! Our 2nd son we also waited and started talking about it form when he was 2 1/2. Again we used the DVD, and a skateboard above the toilet, however he really wasn't at all interested, and started 3 yo kinder with nappies! In the end I bought about $60 of small toys/games wrapped them up and stuck them in a box beside the toilet. When the boys spotted them they were very excited. I explained that every time the youngest actually did wee or poo in the toilet he could pick on and open it. The bigger toys were for poo. I made sure most toys were games or craft they could in fact share and use together. This got things started for there is only so long kids can look at wrapped presents. The oldest was a big part of the toilet training for he really encouraged the youngest. We had more accidents with the second, again took about 4 days to completely nail it. Interestingly he used a small step to get up onto the toilet, but no additional seat, he preffered to hold himself on the actual toilet seat. The big key is to tap into what motivates them, definitely talk about what it feels like before you need to wee (you feel full of water, and about to burst) and poo, so they get the understanding of the sensations they are looking for, and see if they want to use a potty or toilet. At least going straight to the toilet I had no transition from potty to toilet to worry about. We had a potty but gave them the choice of what they wanted to use. Oh - and they got to pick there first set of underpants once trained. (I had cheap boring ones for the training.) The youngest also requested to come out of night nappies, about a month later, he just flatly refused to wear them one night. He had wee accidents for quite a few weeks, but refused to go back to night nappies, so we had a ton of washing and middle of the night changes, but he got there (3 weeks later), and although it was rough going, the fact that he wanted to keep trying, I was happy to keep washing and changing.

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  33. I've only PT one kiddo so far, and everyone else has outlined my method. My second just turned two and we're just now introducing him to the potty as a sitting seat when we're in the bathroom. After I'm done with him, I'll be back to let you know how it went.

    As far as in-vitro. I haven't been through it myself, but my heart goes out to all of those who struggle with infertility. Of those who I know who have gone through it, here's what I've heard: One friend (who has PCOS) tried just the drugs to no avail and was on the verge of going the IVF route, but opted to try a different approach. Her husband deposited his "contribution" into a moon cup which she inserted and left in place for a day (she spent the day in bed with her feet up- gravity and whatnot :) ) and low and behold the girl is home this very minute suffering the joys of her first trimester!!! A second friend couldn't afford IVF so she opted to go for insemination- where the docs deposit her husband's "stuff" into her uterus. Her little girl is 6 months old now :)

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  34. Hi, no experience with in vitro, but I do exercise regularly, so I can talk about that...

    I run now. I was a swimmer growing up. I love swimming, and to a certain extent, I love running. I love being alone with my thoughts(or music). It gives me a chance to clear my head, and I love how I feel afterwards. I love being amazed by what my body can do. I don't love it everyday, and take breaks (both from running and from exercise-but not more than 1-2 weeks).

    I think the key is mixing it up and finding something that works for you/you like well enough to do most of the time. We belong to a gym(it's $10/month), so I will run and workout there, but I'm not a fan of running on the treadmill. I am a stay-at-home mom, so that's *my* time in the evening, and on the weekends as well. I just make it a part of my life. But yes, if you hate it, you won't do it.

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  35. Cheri - My brother and sister-in-law's triplets = IVF. I don't know if she would be willing to share her experiences, but it sounds like you have several other individuals who have some information to share.

    I have an elliptical that I got cheap on a local FB sale page... kinda wish it was electric....not that I would use it any more that I do (which is basically never) lol.

    Think of you and your family often. Love you. rkb

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  36. Cheri,
    Hey it is Alyse and I thought I would let you know that my sister-in-law, Jen, did IVF and that is how she got her twin girls. She has tried a couple more times and sadly, it has not worked again. Anyway, if you ever wanted to talk to her, I know she would help answer any questions you may have and share her story and advice. Let me know if you are interested or ask Eileen.

    Good luck!

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  37. We tried IVF 12 years ago with no success. We quickly moved on to adoption and after many years of hard work to get them here, we have four beautiful kids 12, 10, 6 and 9 mo. It think the best advice I can give is that infertility is an emotional roller coaster. Just realize that some days you'll feel like the world is going to end and the next you'll have all kinds of hope. Having a great relationship with your spouse is key. It's also a big help to be able to talk to others than have been through infertility treatment. People who haven't had trouble getting pregnant, as much as they care, just aren't as helpful. Also, prayer was a big part of the decisions we made. We felt really good about doing in vitro, then it didn't work out. I don't think that meant it was the wrong thing to do, it was just part of the path we had to take to get to our kids. You will be glad for the lessons you learn through struggling with infertility, even if it's (hopefully) only for a short time. You gain a greater awareness of the emotional struggles of others and the ability to truly empathize with them. I could write a book. If you want to know more specifics, you're more than welcome to email.

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  38. Ah, I feel your pain with infertility. My hubby and I have been trying for 5 years, and now we're in a two-week-wait process (we had intrauterine insemination last week). We have problems on both sides - I have PCOS. Lots of meds. Our next step will be IVF. It's a hard decision spiritually and financially - and, well, romantically. I still occasionally have the romantic notion that a baby will just happen, and it looks like that's not God's plan for us. What has happened in our lives due to this struggle is that we are so much closer, so much more gentle with each other and so much more, I guess this is the right way to describe it, in love with each other. It sucks that it takes hardship to bring people closer together, but in our situation, I wouldn't change it. I hope this helps. Just know that you are not alone in this struggle.
    Stephanie

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  39. My husband and I tried for 3 years to have a baby. Several rounds of chlomid and IUIs before being told that IVF would probably be the only option. We were referred to a great fertility specialist, but it still took 2 rounds of IVF before we conceived. After the first round, I was ready to throw in the towel. The shots and hormones had definitely taken their toll. IVF is not for the weak at heart. It's devastating to go through all that pain and then not end up pregnant. Our doctor convinced us to give it one more try though and it was the best decision we ever made because it resulted in the sweetest little baby girl anyone could ask for. She's now 7 months old and one of our greatest blessings.

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    1. Another person commented about this too, but I did acupuncture the second time around and whether it was the catalyst or not, I'm convinced it helped.

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  40. Thank you for all the potty training tips! We are starting this next week and I am so freaked out that I am having dreams of cleaning up the messes! I am so done with diapers though!!

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  41. Checkout www.superundies.com Cheri did a review of them about a year ago. Super Undies are reusable potty training pants and nighttime underwear. I love them and are great for potty training, dont waste your money on pull ups! Also www.superundies.com has potty training videos on their site that address potty training issues and give you great tips. Also check out their facebook page, daily potty training tips are posted and advice. Good luck everyone!

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  42. I have heard acupuncture is the way to go. So many people swear by it. I wish I had done it for baby number three. He was a challenge for us. So we have a six year gap between him and middle child.

    On potty training... my least favorite activity in life. My first didn't train until 4 1/2. He's blind so I like to blame it on that but really that's a bit of hogwash. His younger sister potty trained before him which was weird. She was 2 years 9 months. My third is in the midst of it right now. He is 3 years one month old. It's going well and since he just started preschool he is way more motivated because they are very encouraging at school.

    Exercise... love it. Would love more me time for it though. My gym has daycare which is the only reason I can work out daily. I live on a hill so running from home is out. Don't have room for a piece of equipment so that's not an option. My girlfriend uses her Wii and swears by it.

    I love reading all the comments here because I actually discovered the livestrong.com calorie/workout tracker and I love it.

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