April 24, 2010

Soapbox Saturday - "Can I Pull This Off?"

How many times have you found yourself in a dressing room or in front of your mirror, trying on something you love, but asking yourself, "Can I pull this off?"

Then comes the list....I probably could if I were taller or if my hair was longer or if I was younger or if I weighed less or if I was drop dead gorgeous.


So here's the question I want to pose today.  Why do we let those little things get in the way of expressing who we are and wearing what we love?  I totally do.  I'm trying to break free from it.  It's taken me 30 years to get to the point of caring less about what people think.

My sister and I were talking about this recently.  She has been trying to do the same thing.  She has been dressing a bit bolder and it's making her feel great.  I think she has a new confidence that is visible.  She gets stopped by strangers and complimented.  The other day someone asked if they could take a picture of her sassy short hair with their phone, so they could get the same look.  (Funny, huh?)

I'm not saying I want to be wearing rhinestone-embellished skinny jeans when I'm eighty, but I want to wear what I like without wondering if Stacey and Clinton would approve.  Do you know what I mean? 

So, here's to wearing flapper headbands.  Here's to wearing less matchy-matchy stuff.  Here's to art.  Here's to being me.

Do you ever feel like this?


30 comments:

  1. Bravo! I love this! I feel like this too sometimes, I'm sure almost everyone does...I'm trying also to not care so much, and go with what I like! Good luck to you! and good luck to me, I know I'm gonna need it :)

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  2. I couldn't have said it better myself! <3

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  3. This is great! It is seriously SO true. When I wear what I really like, I really feel better about myself, like I am being true to myself. But those constant nagging questions about what others will thing are so dumb, yet we probably all listen to them too much:). Great post.

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  4. I agree and I've said it before but I think you are rockin that headband! You're darling!

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  5. HA! I do that ALL the time! For example, the flapper headband! I made a bunch, then chickened out and gave them all away :-( but you look so darn CUTE in it! Good for you and your sister!

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  6. I LOVE that pic! And I love your point - I've been trying to dress less conservatively as well. It's kind of empowering. I think what determines "pulling it off" is simply wearing it with confidence. So, yes. You can pull it off.

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  7. Yeah, but for me, it's wearing something more trendy to work than my dress pants, button downs, and cardigans. I'm a pretty conservative dresser, and this past winter I started wearing those cute little scarves and that was a drastic accessory for me! But I'm proud of myself! lol

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  8. great post - i have always worn what i wanted and made the art i like and sometimes i think people wonder what my problem is:) so thanks for voicing that it's a good thing!

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  9. Bravo Cheri, Bravo! I hope you rock those headbands in Cali! Very well put!

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  10. Absolutely! :) I think the 30's is all about coming into yourself. At least I feel that way at 31!

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  11. We are in the exact same place girl. That must be why I love your blog so much. you have such good ideas and feel like they aren't too outrageous. Oh not to mention THRIFTY. Being stylish on a budget is HARD, and you do it great!

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  12. Thank you for this post! I was just looking at some dresses yesterday and thinking that I'd have to be skinnier to pull them off... maybe I'll just go buy them now ;0) And you look adorable in that headband!!!

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  13. I defiantly find myself doing that, but when i do wear what i love i do feel better just like you said. Sometimes it's a little tricky when something is so popular and your not in the trend, i feel kind of dumb not wearing the hottest trend. Then i think about it and realize I DON'T WANT to be like everyone else. I want to be different and simply just myself! Love this post and your cute headband!!

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  14. I think the flapper look is great on you.

    It is hard to find the right balance of being what others expect you to be and being who you truly are stylistically.

    While it would be great if would could all throw caution to the wind and just wear what we want, we have to take everything into consideration. If you have a job you have to present an image that that is reflective of their values. If you work at a place that is fashion forward the look would be fabulous. If you work at a bank that predominately services the Amish community it would make the customers uncomfortable.

    Same thing applies when you have kids - you don't necessarily have to have their seal of approval on what you wear, but you don't want to wear something that will totally embarrass them in front of their friends while they are young. I will never forget when my Mom showed up at school with one of my dresses on when I was in the 5th grade after she lost a lot of weight and we were the same size and my friend commenting on it.

    If your kids love it on you, wear it with pride. It they just don't like it, wear it anyway. It is only if they carry on and on about it that you might not want to wear it out of consideration for their feelings and stress that is the only reason you are not wearing it and you expect the same consideration when you ask them to dress up for a function that they really don't want to - it is a two way street.

    I have told my son, it only applies until he becomes of adult age. Once he goes to college, Mama is wearing what she wants on the weekends and I don't care if I end up as one of the photos on "The People of Walmart".

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  15. Oh I think this allllll the time...

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  16. I'm like that a lot! I love all the cute styles and want to dress in style, but I find myself saying can I really wear that? And then, will I really wear that, and when? But I did get my first pair of skinny jeans today, we'll see how it goes!!

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  17. You have no idea how much I needed to read your blog today. I have been thinking a lot about this. I'm a 23 (almost 24) year old working mother and all I ever wear is jeans, tshirts and tennis shoes. I have a couple of pair of slacks I wear on "special" occasions with a "dressy" t-shirt. My husband just started back to work and I thought to myself... FINALLY, I can go shopping for some new clothes. Then I started wondering, would I find myself just buying a new pair of boring old jeans and a couple of t-shirts or would I get a little bolder. Then I thought... nah, I'll wait until I lose those next 20 lbs. HAHA, at this rate, I'll never get the bold clothes I dream of myself wearing. Seriously, thank you for this blog. I'm so gonna take that next step in being more than just jeans and tshirt girl. Oh, and LOVE LOVE LOVE the headband!

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  18. Hi. I just found your blog. Thanks so much for this post. Maybe I can stray away from being just a jeans and tshirt girl.

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  19. This is where one of the things Stacy and Clinton says is very true: don't wait to dress the way you want. Don't wait until you: lose weight, grow out your hair, find more money, etc. to be as stylish as you can.

    I think that's so true.

    Cheers!
    Laura

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  20. you inspired me today! Thanks! Sometimes all we need is a little boost!

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  21. I'm definitely no style guru when it comes to my personal clothing/hair choices, but yes I am so with you on this Cheri. I am learning to not be afraid to be me-- in my house, my decorating style, my odd sense of "humor" whatevs. Thanks!

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  22. thanks for this post - I don't think I've made it to this point in my life but I'm dying too - I just don't have enough guts to do it. THANKS for the little nudge!!!!

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  23. Hey.. I heard this song.. and I think the lyrics really work here..

    "'Cause I refuse to be
    Your 'typical girl'
    There's plenty of her
    In this world.
    Why should I change myself
    Into what you think I should be?
    When all you've got to love-
    Is me.... "

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  24. It's all about ego and we all do it! We imagine that those around us actually care about what we are wearing and how we look/act. The reality is, that while a few people might be critical, most are not! I resolved recently to live my life without apology. If I love something, I will wear it! If something sounds fun to me, I will do it (even if I may look a little silly running through the sprinklers at the public park with my children...)! Life is too short to waste it imagining that others are criticizing me, and let that keep me from being completely me!! My new mantra: I live completely, and without apology!!

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  25. Cracking up about Grammin in bedazzled skinny jeans. But I agree. As I have gotten older I am very much against the grain. My fam thinks I'm plain, but I accessorize to death and go with what makes me feel goooooooood!

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  26. so can you start showing us pictures of your brave self wearing your "out of the box" clothes, that might give some other people some advice and some courage.

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  27. I feel it all the time, and like you I fight it better some days than others. Work that headband!

    _Lisa

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  28. I love this post! I am completely there with you in straying away, but trying to break free from it. I'm convinced that if I have enough confidence for it, then I CAN pull it off. (and I always fall back on the "fake it 'til you make it")

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  29. I love the quote from Dr. Seuss...'Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.'
    Same goes for clothes, in my book :)

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