May 12, 2013

Sunshine Sunday - Mother's Day

Mother's day isn't really my favorite holiday, to be honest.  It often ends up being the day my kids fight the most and my visions of being showered with gifts and praise come crashing down.  So, I decided that instead of thinking of today as a day that I should be praised and appreciated, I would think of it as a day to express my gratitude for the chance to even be a mother.


If you've been reading my blog for a while, you know that I am pregnant and you probably read Our Fertility Story.  I just read it again as I was writing this post because it helps me step back and recognize what a gift it all is.  

I don't need my kids to behave perfectly to have a perfect Mother's day.  I don't need an amazing present from my husband and breakfast in bed to make the day just right.  I just need to remember what I've been given.  I know those two little boys were meant to be mine and I can't wait to meet this little girl and get to know her.


I chose the name Elsa a long time ago.  I've loved it for many years.  It derived from Elizabeth, so the meaning is "consecrated by God."  She is our gift from God and I always want her name to remind me of that.

So if your day isn't picture perfect today, I hope you mothers can have a happy moment today just knowing that you've been given such an incredible privilege.  Someone calls you mom.

24 comments:

  1. That's a wonderful way to see Mother's Day, instead of a marketing ploy played by the consumer market etc... I'm a mom too and I'm with you on remembering the reason why we've become mothers: our children. All the best!

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  2. I've always had mixed feelings about Mothers Day. I'd love it to be a day spent spoiling myself but it never is, we usually have my mother or mil staying over and they get treated... but with me working hard in the background! It can also be stressful keeping the peace when in the back of mind I'm thinking "but this should be my day!". So I've found it easier to accept that mothers day is not for me but for the grandmothers and I've felt much happier for it. My birthday, on the other hand, is one hundred percent for me and I make no excuses for being selfish about my time on this one day.

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  3. Thank you for this. Everyone around me seems so focused on gifts and breakfast in bed, that's not what being a mom is about for me.

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  4. Aww! Yay! I have an Elsie! Mother's Day is a tough one. It brings so much pain. For every woman struggling with infertility, all the birthmom's that lost their child, and for every woman waiting for someone to choose them.

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  5. Its amazing that you came to this conclusion about Mother's Day this year, because I had the same revelation a few days ago. Mother's Day always ends up being so high-stress and it was gearing up to be the same this year. When I had that thought - that maybe it should be about sitting back and being thankful for my family, for the fact that I have them and they have me - a load lifted off my shoulders. Thank you for reinforcing that. And happy, happy Mother's Day!

    P.S. I love Elsa - its so pretty. Congratulations!

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  6. Thank you and I agree with you. I hope you do have a very Happy Mother's Day!

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  7. Well said. Elsa is a BEAUTIFUL name. My own daughter is an Elizabeth (Eliza). I love your chosen version of that very special name. Blessings to you all!

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  8. I really enjoyed reading this today. Just what I needed to hear. Thank you.

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  9. Same here. After years of trying to have children we've adopted three. And that's the way it was meant to be, so I'm grateful that my kids' birthmothers chose me to be their every-day-mom.
    And btw : after giving me their presents this morning my kids have been fighting all day long. I'm secretly glad they're in bed now ;-)

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  10. Thank you so much for this. It's not my favorite either- this is my first mother's day as a mom, and let's just say I don't have the best relationship with my mom. Mother's day cards are the worst reminder of that... I have stopped buying them for that reason, because I always left the card aisle almost in tears, feeling worse for having even tried.
    I really needed this gratitude check, as I knew I should be thankful this year to celebrate Being a mom, but was feeling blue all the same.

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  11. Wow, to be honest, I thought I was the only one who had a lukewarm feeling about Mother's Day for all the same reasons. My husband usually gets very stressed that everything has to go 'perfectly' and, of course, that is the day the kids are cranky or whatever else. I usually end up dreading it!

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  12. Thanks! I'm not the only one. We had out of town family for the weekend cooked and cleaned and cooked and cleaned some more. Now doing laundry so my husband can go out of town for work again this week.

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  13. I'm not into Mother's Day, either, but I do let my husband change all of the diapers for the whole day. ;)

    I love the name Elsa, and it was on my short list for our daughters.

    I'll miss your blog when you're on the break and potential end. Yours is one of just two that I check daily. I completely get it, though, and I know that blogs are a ton of work.

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  14. Happy Mother's Day! Yes, it truly is a privilege to be a mother. It's hard and joyful at the same time, and definitely not something you can roll up into one day. Thank you for this beautiful post. Elsa is a lovely name!

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  15. I feel the same way about Mother's Day. My kids always fight and throw tantrums on this holiday. I wish I had read this earlier but I'm so grateful I read it at all. Thanks for the insight and reminder.

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  16. Aw that's a lovely post :)
    Elsa is a very German name (in a good way!!!), I absolutely adore it :) it's actually on my name list for future daughters ^^

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  17. I am so glad I read this post. You are so right. We can celebrate our children as the reason we are mothers instead of wanting to be praised which often doesn't happen the way we envision because our vision isn't our family's vision. I needed this reminder as yesterday wasn't the best day ever, partly because we just moved and lots needs to get done and partly because I had horrible allergies and felt miserable the entire day.

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  18. Wow, thank you. I really needed this today! Yesterday was far from perfect, but I was able to hug & squeeze my beautiful boys...and that, that is the greatest gift!

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  19. What a great perspective. We've given our girls meaningful middle names. Samara = protected by God, since she almost died at birth; and Anaya = gift from God, since this child was conceived naturally which didn't happen with the other two kids. I love the name Elsa too. I love meaning behind the names, it makes a great story and it so special to think about. Happy Mother's Day.

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  20. Such a great attitude, I agree, not a fan of Mother's Day. I love my son, but I don't need a special day for people to spend money on me. I told my husband, please don't buy me anything, my son made me 2 presents in school and that was plenty enough. Happy Mother's Day anyway, though.

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  21. I agree. My boys were confused, because I already had a birthday ;o) It's a good day to reflect on the amazing little miracles that made me a Mama to begin with.
    Such a beautiful name. Love the meaning and I love that you've had it close to your heart for a while. :o)

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  22. How timely this was! This was first mother's day, and naturally it was not the perfect, beautiful day. My daughter pooped all over her church dress and spit up on me multiple times, then had another accident at the restaurant. But I too decided that mother's day is about being a mother, and I determined to throw my whole heart into it, because being a mom doesn't stop just because it's a holiday! Me and my husband and our little Elodie ended up having a great day together, that's what it's all about! I'm grateful that I have diapers to change!

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  23. What a beautiful name and a beautiful sentiment.

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